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Motherhood Came with Unexpected Challenges

There was a time when I felt like I was constantly failing—failing at being the ‘perfect’ mother, a wife, a daughter-in-law, the ‘ideal’ employee, and the person I wanted to be for myself. No matter how hard I tried, I felt stretched too thin. Between work deadlines, my child’s needs, and my own emotional struggles, I often asked myself, ‘When will I ever feel balanced?’

Becoming a mother brought more hurdles than I ever anticipated. My pregnancy was far from easy. I faced numerous health issues that made those nine months feel like a marathon. Emotional support was sorely lacking. Without my family’s support, the journey became even more arduous.

Career Pressures & Work Stress

I took a bold step back from my career for about five years to raise my child. It was tough, especially with no support from family, adding layers of stress. Restarting my career was overwhelming. Balancing job stress while being a mother felt like juggling flaming torches.

Losing Myself in Responsibilities

In the whirlwind of responsibilities, I lost sight of myself. Caring for my child and fulfilling work duties left no room for my own growth. I felt like I was just going through the motions.

How I Started Finding Balance

1. Prioritizing Mental Peace Over Toxic Environments

I took a leap of faith and quit a draining job. Finding a workplace that offered balance was a game-changer. Choosing mental well-being over a paycheck marked a pivotal turning point in my career.

2. Setting Boundaries & Letting Go of Toxic Relationships

I distanced myself from people who hurt me and stopped being a doormat. I learned to let go of relationships that added stress to my life.

3. Mindfulness & Meditation

My morning meditation practice, even if it’s just for 10 minutes, brought clarity and peace. Listening to Vedic mantras and bhajans became my sanctuary. Reading self-help books also helped me with mindfulness and provided different perspectives on my priorities.

4. Making Time for Myself Without Guilt

I stopped feeling guilty for taking time out for myself. Writing, self-reflection, or just sitting in silence—I now make myself a priority.

5. Being Fully Present with My Son

I focused on quality time over quantity—bedtime stories, hugs, and listening to his little tales became our cherished moments. Instead of striving to be a ‘perfect’ mom, I embraced being a mindful one.

6. Accepting That Balance is an Ongoing Process

Some days, work takes priority. Other days, I need to slow down and focus on my son or myself. And that’s perfectly okay. The biggest lesson I’ve learned: Balance isn’t about doing it all—it’s about doing what truly matters.

This journey has taught me that it’s okay to put myself first sometimes, and it’s okay to find my own way in the chaos. 😊

For the longest time, I thought balance meant having everything under control. But now, I know that true balance is about choosing what matters most in each moment. It’s about releasing guilt, setting boundaries, and embracing imperfection. If you’re struggling to find balance, remember—small steps lead to big changes.

Have you ever struggled with balancing motherhood, career, and self-growth? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!